I’m getting back into the habit of taking self portraits again, and it feels so good! Side note: I almost decluttered this bodysuit recently since I hadn’t worn it in years (since my first Sinful Sunday post in 2012!), but I’m glad I decided to keep it because I’m so feeling it again.
Disclaimer: Everyone’s body reacts differently to hormones/IUDs/contraceptives, this is just my experience. I’m not trying to dissuade anyone from getting an IUD–they work well for lots of people. Also although birth control pills work well for me, they’re not the right option for everyone–you have to find what works for you.
I decided to get the copper (Paraguard) IUD in the summer of 2016 for a few reasons. Most importantly, I was having trouble remembering to take my birth control pills since I was stressed and going through a lot at the time. I also wanted to try a more “natural” route, and I thought maybe hormones were negatively affecting my body, mood, and sex drive (really though, life/stress was affecting my mood and sex drive more than anything.) I also loved the idea of a birth control method that would last 10 years without hardly any thought on my part–no taking pills or picking up prescriptions.
Having the IUD inserted wasn’t as painful as I imagined. It hurt, but it was quick.1 I had some light cramping immediately after and on and off for a few days.
When I had my consultation for getting the IUD, they warned me my periods might be heavier and my cramps worse–but I figured it was probably worth it. Cramps aren’t fun, but I’m not really bothered by blood and since I use a Diva cup, I didn’t think it’d really affect my daily life much.
Oh, was I wrong.
I’m so glad the IUD is an option for people because it works great for many, but it was terrible for me.
Not long after I had the IUD inserted, I started getting cystic acne on my jawline and on my back. At first I thought it was stress related or from not eating well while traveling, but it never went away. I eventually decided to see a doctor about it, and even after recommended diet changes and topical acne treatments, it didn’t go away. It negatively affected my self esteem and my sex life. I stopped taking self portraits, I didn’t even want to take my shirt off (which is not normal for me–I usually love being naked!) or wear tank tops because the acne would show. I’m not saying acne should be shameful or hidden, but I didn’t feel like myself with this sudden acne all over my back, not to mention that it itched and even hurt sometimes as well.
My periods were also horrific. Like clockwork, on the 7th day before my period, I would wake up with terrible, extremely painful cramps. I continued to have painful cramps on and off the entire week before my period…and then during my period too, which was now much longer and heavier. Before I got the IUD/when I was on the pill, I would bleed fairly lightly for 4-5 days. With the IUD, my periods were 7 days and sometimes up to 10 days. On birth control pills, I could go without my Diva cup at night because I wouldn’t bleed much, and with the IUD/no hormones, I bled a lot more and definitely couldn’t do that.
Honestly I’m surprised I lasted as long as I did with the IUD (a little over a year.) At first I thought I was still adapting and that maybe I’d get used to it, and then after awhile it started to feel like it was normal, even though my pms and periods were far worse than I’d ever experienced. Eventually my partner and even some of my friends commented that they were worried about me because I was always home with cramps, and I only felt ok for 2 weeks or less during each month. Honestly it’s kind of impressive I accomplished anything last year.
Deep penetration was also less comfortable–something I only noticed after a friend was talking about how sex was painful for her with an IUD as well. I had written it off as just my moody vagina–sometimes I’m not in the mood for penetration at all anyways, and my cervix can get finicky around my period, but thinking back I realized I had stopping liking positions that allow for deep thrusting since getting the IUD, and I wasn’t choosing to use any toys bigger than the Mustang either.
I also had a few other minor side effects–like I’d randomly get pains in my vagina. They were mild, but it was a weird feeling, and I also worried about the IUD moving out of place, which I think is rare, but I worry about those kinds of things. I’d check my string with my VagCam and it was still there, but the worry associated with having something foreign in my body always lingered in my mind.
After a little over a year, I’d finally had enough, and I made an appointment to have my IUD removed2, and then immediately got back on hormonal birth control to help my acne (and possibly my cramps as well).
I’ve been back on the pill for a little over 3 months now, and my acne is finally healing. My cramps are much more manageable–they’re much milder and last only a few days as opposed to 14+ days. I’m not sure if my cramps/bleeding were from the IUD itself or from not taking hormonal birth control pills or both because I’d been on the pill before, but either way, my quality of life has improved so much. (Based on what I’ve heard/read, I think most likely my acne was from lack of hormones from the pill and the bad cramps were from the IUD itself.) The only side effect I experienced getting back on the pill was sore breasts for a week or so…and they’re definitely bigger now, all the time.
I admit that it felt kind of defeating taking out the IUD–I really wanted it to work for me and to not have to take hormones, partly because I thought not taking hormones would be more natural/better, but even though the copper IUD doesn’t utilize hormones, it’s not really “natural” either. (The only real “natural” birth control method I know of is monitoring your cycle/not having sex when/around the time you’re ovulating.)
I have a newfound love for my birth control pills, and I could care less if they’re natural or not. By the way–if you know of any cute birth control enamel pins/art, let me know!
PS–It’s possible the Mirena IUD could have worked better for me since it’s hormonal, but I didn’t want that one since sometimes you don’t get periods (I think not having periods sounds great in theory, but not having a monthly reminder I’m not pregnant would worry me.)
Have you had/do you have an IUD? Does it work well for you? Do you prefer the pill or another birth control method? Let me know in the comments!
Ever since I went vegan, I’ve been wanting to do an updated sexy pizza photo shoot (to replace the non-vegan one I did a few years ago), and I finally did it!
I’ll probably end up posting some other photos from this shoot on my other Instagram account as well (where I post more self portraits, vegan food porn, beauty stuff, & more), and I’d love it if y’all would follow me there too! If you’re curious, the (super comfy) underwear I’m wearing is from MeUndies, though I don’t think they don’t carry the pizza ones anymore.
Hey everyone! It’s been a while. I haven’t been blogging as much on here lately, and you may be wondering why. I want to try to explain…and hopefully find my way back to this corner of the internet more often.
Part of the reason I haven’t been sex blogging much lately is that last year I lost both my mom and my partner’s mom, and I went through a period of grief when I didn’t do much of anything other than try to support my family and get through the days. I didn’t talk about it on here at all or even on social media really because I didn’t feel comfortable doing so, but I did eventually write a little about it on my other blog.
When I was finally able to get back into writing and photography, I felt passionately about veganism and health, and I ended up starting a new blog to focus on lifestyle topics like cooking, cruelty free beauty, vintage fashion, travel, etc. It’s not that I don’t care about sex anymore (I do!), it’s just that I found myself going in a different direction, and it felt easier to start anew with a fresh blog. It felt difficult to pick back up with this blog full speed as if nothing happened. Also obviously my sexuality was impacted, and though I do feel more like my old self again, for months the only toy I used was my beloved Hitachi.
I’m still interested in sexuality and sex toys, but I’ve been feeling burnt out, particularly on things like reviews that I don’t feel as passionately about anymore. I still like trying new toys, but I’m not interested in trying new toys just to try them, I only want to try things I’m fairly confident that I’ll love, otherwise my writing will be lackluster, and the toy will end up wasting space in my closet.
I do miss the parts of this blog that were my favorite though, like my (often creepy) self portraits, artistic sex toy photography, and erotic stories (damn, it’s been a while.) I had a ton of fun earlier this year when Ely and I shot nudes of each other at Hippie Hollow. I miss hanging out with my babely sex blogger friends at conferences and having amazing adventures like making our own glass dildos.
I have some ideas on how to get my groove back on this blog and have ideas for crossover topics. For example, I’m thinking about writing about menstrual cups on my lifestyle blog, instead of this one, because I think it’d reach people that may know less about the topic than my readers over here. I also think it’d be cool to bring parts of my other blog over here, and I have ideas for that as well. I’ve already done some with my vegan safter sex barriers and sex toys posts.
I’m also thinking about doing a spooky/sexy photo every day during October, if I can get enough inspiration and content next month.
I’m glad I took a break–I needed it, but I miss y’all! Can anyone relate? If you’re a regular reader, what do you like most about my blog? Any ideas for me? Let me know in the comments!
Also–back to the title of this post–I bought this g-spoon when I saw Epiphora tweet about Fucking Sculptures closing up shop. 🙁 I’m glad I was able to get one before it was too late, and I love this photo I created of it.
Last weekend, my bff Ely came to visit me, and one day while she was here, we went to Hippie Hollow and went skinny dipping, did some spells, and shot some photos, including this Polaroid. It was a magical day, and I love this photo she took of me.
Have you ever been to a nude park or beach before? Do you still shoot with Polaroids? Let me know in the comments! Also stay tuned in the upcoming weeks for more photos from our trip.
For me, the Spareparts Joque is a story of firsts. It was my first harness. It was my first time experimenting with having a cock. It was the harness I wore the first time my partner and I tried pegging. The first time I had strap-on sex with a girl I wore Joque, with Tie-Bright Mustang, of course.
And I’m glad Joque was my first–it’s everything I’m looking for in a harness–it’s comfortable, versatile, easy to use, and sexy.
The Joque is easy to put on–it’s as simple as stepping into it, inserting a dildo into the o-ring, and then adjusting the belt and leg straps. Within minutes of its arrival, I had Adam through it and pranced around my apartment, enjoying the new feeling of having a cock. I’ve since worn it many times, and the best thing about it is how quickly and effortlessly I can get it on, so I can go from I want you to fuck me to thrusting action in no time.
Once it’s on, it’s super comfortable. When I’m wearing a strap-on, I don’t want to think about the harness, I just want to think about my partner and my cock, and the Joque allows me to do just that. It also has two pockets on the inside lining for bullet vibrators (that’s perfect for my beloved Tango), one above and one below the o-ring, but I only use one (the lower one because it hits my clit better). I’d like to get another and try using two at once.
Another quality that’s really important for me in a harness is how easy it is to clean–and the Joque is machine washable, which I love. If I want to wash it right away I’ll hand wash it, but otherwise I just add it in to wash with my laundry.
In the Joque’s product description it claims to be “the only harness you’ll every need” and I definitely agree. The only other reason I’d get more harnesses would be solely for variation in photos/to try some more femme styles, but the Joque is everything I need function wise.