I want to start by admitting that I have only recently started anal play. I am a little bit of a germ freak (at least when it comes to my vagina), and I have always had some qualms about butt play because of that aspect. I’d tried anal sex of couple of times, and it didn’t hurt or anything, but I really did it more for Jake than for myself, which is pretty lame (and why we didn’t really do it anymore.) Luckily I have Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah, founders of Toys in Babeland, to thank for my real curiosity and interest in anal pleasure. I was recently reading their book Sex Toys 101: A Playfully Uninhibited Guide, and the anal section particularly caught my attention because although I have worked at a sex store for over 2 years, I felt alienated by the subject. Their description of anal play and encouragement to give your booty some much needed attention made me rethink my rejection of my ass. They explained that people actually hold a lot of tension and stress in their assholes, and basically that if you aren’t playing with your butt, you’re missing out. In the book, they suggest starting by playing around externally in the shower (where you can easily clean up) and inserting a finger. I took their advice and was surprised at how good it felt and not long after I decided to invest in my first set of anal beads and go for it.
When I told Jake I wanted a new butt toy he was definitely excited. We went to the shop together, and I didn’t know exactly what toy I wanted, but I did know what materials would be acceptable for my first anal toy. The only materials I want to put in my butt are glass, silicone, etc. because they are nonporous (meaning they don’t hold trapped germs and can be sterilized.) I was leaning towards a glass toy, but the glass selection where I was wasn’t great, and I ended up deciding on the California Exotics Silicone Vibrating Pleasure Beads.
This anal toy consists of a silicone beaded probe that is firm yet flexible and starts with a small bead that is attached to increasingly larger beads, with a curved handle at the end for easy use (and safety.) At the end near the handle, a small waterproof bullet vibrator made of ABS plastic slips into the silicone probe, providing 3 speeds of vibration throughout the toy. The vibration is what I would call high frequency, which for vaginal play only tickles me and would not be strong enough, but for anal play it was sufficient even on the lowest speed. We started with finger play and then moved onto the beads, using Jo water based lube (remember to only use water based lube with silicone toys unless you know for sure the products are compatible.) I really enjoyed the feeling of each bead entering (and later exiting) me, and I ended up getting so excited that I wanted to try anal sex again, this time for me. During that same trip to the store, I also purchased the much coveted Hitachi Magic Wand, and we whipped that sucker out for even more fun. The vibration on the Hitachi is extremely, extremely powerful, and with it positioned in front/underneath me and Jake behind, I finally had my first extremely pleasurable anal experience!
As an anal beginner, I was happy with this product and would recommend it for other anal newbies like me. Although some “novelty” products such as this one are not pure silicone even though they are labeled as such, this probe did feel like silicone. I also like that the probe is separate from the bullet, so you can boil the probe as well as replace the bullet if you desire or choose not to use it. I recommend choosing the black version of this toy (it also comes in pink and purple.) The only real drawback of this product I can think of is that it runs on LR44 batteries, which have a short lifespan, but at least it comes with an extra set. Shame on me though because I didn’t take the batteries out of the toy after play like I always tell my customers to, and I was annoyed as hell the next time I was ready to use my beads and had to search for the extra set.