Last night a group of girls and I enjoyed drinks, played games, and participated in an oral sex class for my friend’s Bachelorette party. The Maid of Honor told me ahead of time that she had booked an oral sex instructor, but I didn’t know it would be Charla Hathaway, a sex and intimacy coach I had previously met at an event. I was excited to see her warm, friendly familiar face and to hear what she had to say about oral sex.
Charla began by introducing herself and her work and had us all take out our bananas. After peeling the bananas and posing for some funny not-for-facebook pictures, we began playing with our bananas. Instead of focusing on pleasing or “getting off” the bananas, Charla told us to pay attention to the way the bananas felt around our lips, on the soft skin of our cheeks, and in our mouths. Although there were some awkward giggles stemming from feelings of self-consciousness and over all silliness from erotically playing with a banana, we listened to the instructions she gave in her soft, seductive voice and did our best to take the banana playing seriously. At one point we all broke down laughing as one girl exclaimed, “I broke my banana!”
After answering various questions and leading our banana play session, Charla showed us how to do the put a condom on with your mouth trick. I had never tried it before, and it was actually pretty easy and fun. In addition to the banana play, we also spent some time talking about how to express to our lovers what we want and how to slow down and enjoy intimacy and being in the moment.
I definitely enjoyed Charla’s class and her teaching style. I appreciated the philosophy Charla expressed to us, that oral sex is much more fun for both partners when the giver focuses more on enjoying the process rather than getting the receiver off. It was a fun, light-hearted, and sexy night. After the class, we had more drinks and played various games including one of my favorites, Who is the Biggest Slut.