Usually it annoys me when sex toys are described as “personal massagers” (I don’t use them to massage myself, I used them to fuck myself!) but in the case of the Tantus Charmer, I actually do feel like I’m giving my vagina a massage when I’m using it.
The Charmer is a 6.8″ long matte silicone dildo with ridges along its shaft and a 1.4″ max girth. Unlike the other two Tantus dildos I’ve tried so far (Adam & Flurry) which feature dual density silicone with a hard core, the Charmer’s silicone is soft and bendy, though it still has a firm feel.
When using the Charmer, I enjoy taking my time thrusting it and squeezing around its unique shape. The Charmer doesn’t throw my g-spot against the wall and fuck it (metaphorically speaking) like my other bigger and harder toys do– it’s gentle; it massages and teases. The Charmer’s sloping ridges caress my g-spot, awakening it slowly.
Since it’s flexible and not super girthy, the Charmer is a natural choice for a warm-up toy, and that’s how I use the Charmer most of the time. Sometimes the Charmer’s subtle stimulation is enough, but more often I find myself craving a more intense dildo to finish up with. When I do enjoy the Charmer by itself, it’s definitely a longer jack-off session, since it doesn’t have enough girth, curve, or a prominent head to make it a toy for a quick orgasm.
Originally I thought the Charmer wouldn’t be able to make me squirt because my g-spot loves the pressure that hard and/or girthy toys provide, but I have on occasion been able to ejaculate with the Charmer paired with my We-Vibe Tango. It’s definitely a toy that takes some build up though, not one that makes me feel like I might squirt immediately.
If you’re looking for an internal/g-spot or prostate dildo that isn’t super intense, the Charmer is a great option. Unlike dildos that have a prominent head sometimes do, the Charmer doesn’t catch on my pubic bone, and since its ridges are subtle, it’s ideal for gradual g-spot stimulation.
Since the Charmer has a flared based, it’s safe for anal play and can be paired with a harness. It’s actually the first dildo I’ve tried anally (with a condom*), and it’s fairly easy to insert. I still consider myself more of a butt plug enthusiast though, and I doubt I’ll use it anally much.
If you’re looking for a slim dildo for warm-up, a toy that provides pleasurable g-spot or prostate stimulation that’s not super intense, or just a toy to use to make sweet, slow love to yourself, then I recommend getting a Tantus Charmer. If you prefer girthier toys or need intense pressure and stimulation however, then you’d probably find the Charmer underwhelming.
Thanks Tantus for sending me the Charmer in exchange for my honest review and for making high quality, body-safe, bad ass silicone toys! You rock!
*Although silicone can be boiled, sterilized, and used both vaginally/anally, silicone can retain butt smells and even the idea of possible butt germs on toys I use vaginally turns me off, so condoms it is.