Hey babes! It’s been a little while since my last Sinful Sunday post, but I’m excited to be back and starting a new photo series featuring dissected vibrators. (I actually posted a similar photo a couple of years ago and am expanding on the idea.) I’ve dissected a few so far and have discovered some interesting things…like the M (or W?) marking on the inside of this one. I’m guessing it’s M for motor, but who knows?
Lube is a miraculous invention–it can make all sorts of sexy scenarios more pleasurable. I’ve been an avid lube user for as long as I’ve been blogging (about 7 years now!), and I wanted to share this reference post for whenever people ask me about my favorite lubes.
My favorite lubes/the ones I’ve bought and used again and again over the years are Sliquid Sassy, Sliquid H2O, and Überlube. And luckily when I went vegan a few years ago, I didn’t have to change what lubes I use because my favorites already happened to be vegan!
My first love was Sliquid H2O–I reviewed it back in 2012, and though the photo is a little cringe-worthy, my thoughts on the lube haven’t changed much–I love that it only contains a few (vegan) ingredients, it doesn’t irritate me/doesn’t really have a taste or smell, and it has a light water-based consistency that’s slippery and mixes well with natural lubrication.
My second love and all time favorite lube is Sliquid Sassy. Sassy is similar to H20 but thicker, so it checks off all of the things H20 does with the added bonus of being more versatile since it’s thick enough for anal play and convenient to use with toys since it’s less messy and stays where you plop it better. I usually have both Sassy and H20 around, but if I could only order one lube it would be Sassy since it works well for most scenarios.
I’m including Überlube as a favorite in this post as well because though I don’t really use it, Jake loves it for (penis) masturbation since it’s silicone/very slick and works well in the shower. He’s gone through lots of Überlube over the years, and it’s vegan as well! I don’t use it because I prefer water based for ease of cleaning and because I can use it with all of my toys (whereas silicone lube can damage some silicone toys.)
I’m not a lube connoisseur or anything, and my requirements for lube are pretty basic–I want it to 1.) make things more slippery and comfortable 2.) not irritate me or leave me feeling gross after 3.) be vegan, and Sliquid does the job well. Back when I worked at a sex shop, I tried quite a few different lubes but never found anything I liked as much as Sliquid, and I haven’t ventured out to try other lubes in years because when I find something I love I tend to stick with it (and also I’ve had issues with some lubes irritating me in the past). There are other vegan lubes out there that I haven’t tried though so if you’d like me to try more and write a vegan lube guide, let me know in the comments!
Get Sliquid & Überlube from my fave shop SheVibe or directly from Sliquid (get 10% off with code DIRTYTHOUGHTS). Note: This post is not sponsored but does contain affiliate links, meaning I may make a small commission if you purchase through them (at no extra cost to you)–thanks for your support.
Have you tried Sliquid or Überlube? What’s your favorite lube? Know of any other great vegan lubes I should try? Please let me know in the comments!
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Hey everyone! It’s been a while. I haven’t been blogging as much on here lately, and you may be wondering why. I want to try to explain…and hopefully find my way back to this corner of the internet more often.
Part of the reason I haven’t been sex blogging much lately is that last year I lost both my mom and my partner’s mom, and I went through a period of grief when I didn’t do much of anything other than try to support my family and get through the days. I didn’t talk about it on here at all or even on social media really because I didn’t feel comfortable doing so, but I did eventually write a little about it on my other blog.
When I was finally able to get back into writing and photography, I felt passionately about veganism and health, and I ended up starting a new blog to focus on lifestyle topics like cooking, cruelty free beauty, vintage fashion, travel, etc. It’s not that I don’t care about sex anymore (I do!), it’s just that I found myself going in a different direction, and it felt easier to start anew with a fresh blog. It felt difficult to pick back up with this blog full speed as if nothing happened. Also obviously my sexuality was impacted, and though I do feel more like my old self again, for months the only toy I used was my beloved Hitachi.
I’m still interested in sexuality and sex toys, but I’ve been feeling burnt out, particularly on things like reviews that I don’t feel as passionately about anymore. I still like trying new toys, but I’m not interested in trying new toys just to try them, I only want to try things I’m fairly confident that I’ll love, otherwise my writing will be lackluster, and the toy will end up wasting space in my closet.
I do miss the parts of this blog that were my favorite though, like my (often creepy) self portraits, artistic sex toy photography, and erotic stories (damn, it’s been a while.) I had a ton of fun earlier this year when Ely and I shot nudes of each other at Hippie Hollow. I miss hanging out with my babely sex blogger friends at conferences and having amazing adventures like making our own glass dildos.
I have some ideas on how to get my groove back on this blog and have ideas for crossover topics. For example, I’m thinking about writing about menstrual cups on my lifestyle blog, instead of this one, because I think it’d reach people that may know less about the topic than my readers over here. I also think it’d be cool to bring parts of my other blog over here, and I have ideas for that as well. I’ve already done some with my vegan safter sex barriers and sex toys posts.
I’m also thinking about doing a spooky/sexy photo every day during October, if I can get enough inspiration and content next month.
I’m glad I took a break–I needed it, but I miss y’all! Can anyone relate? If you’re a regular reader, what do you like most about my blog? Any ideas for me? Let me know in the comments!
Also–back to the title of this post–I bought this g-spoon when I saw Epiphora tweet about Fucking Sculptures closing up shop. 🙁 I’m glad I was able to get one before it was too late, and I love this photo I created of it.
For me, the Spareparts Joque is a story of firsts. It was my first harness. It was my first time experimenting with having a cock. It was the harness I wore the first time my partner and I tried pegging. The first time I had strap-on sex with a girl I wore Joque, with Tie-Bright Mustang, of course.
And I’m glad Joque was my first–it’s everything I’m looking for in a harness–it’s comfortable, versatile, easy to use, and sexy.
The Joque is easy to put on–it’s as simple as stepping into it, inserting a dildo into the o-ring, and then adjusting the belt and leg straps. Within minutes of its arrival, I had Adam through it and pranced around my apartment, enjoying the new feeling of having a cock. I’ve since worn it many times, and the best thing about it is how quickly and effortlessly I can get it on, so I can go from I want you to fuck me to thrusting action in no time.
Joque’s stretchy elastic o-ring accommodates dildos with a diameter of 1.25-2″ ((Epiphora was actually even able to get her Randy through it (which has a diameter of 2 3/16″), which is impressive.)) though the ones I’ve used in it most are the Tie-Bright Mustang & Mustang Royale.
Once it’s on, it’s super comfortable. When I’m wearing a strap-on, I don’t want to think about the harness, I just want to think about my partner and my cock, and the Joque allows me to do just that. It also has two pockets on the inside lining for bullet vibrators (that’s perfect for my beloved Tango), one above and one below the o-ring, but I only use one (the lower one because it hits my clit better). I’d like to get another and try using two at once.
Another quality that’s really important for me in a harness is how easy it is to clean–and the Joque is machine washable, which I love. If I want to wash it right away I’ll hand wash it, but otherwise I just add it in to wash with my laundry.
In the Joque’s product description it claims to be “the only harness you’ll every need” and I definitely agree. The only other reason I’d get more harnesses would be solely for variation in photos/to try some more femme styles, but the Joque is everything I need function wise.
Pictured: Lilly holding Lunabelle‘s Crazy Corncob dildo while we admired her sex toy collection at Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit last year. I had so much fun bonding with my peeps (and doing impromptu naked photoshoots, like you do.) Sadly I won’t be able to make it this year, but I’ll be there with the #blogsquad in spirit.
Happy Toy Tuesday y’all!
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Pictured: Uncut #2
Pictured: New Tantus Rumble vibe
Happy Toy Tuesday!