Let’s cut to the chase: vibrators like the We-Vibe Tango and Touch make me thank goddess I have a clitoris.
If you’ve ever visited one of the big sex toy mega-stores, you know there is no shortage of vibrator options. The problem is that a lot of them are crap. Many are made of unsafe materials, and even the ones that are safe are often badly designed, or are too weak, or too buzzy.
If you’re not familiar with vibration types, “buzzy” vibration feels like a tickle–it’s also described as “surface level,” because it only stimulates the surface area where you put it. I can sometimes orgasm from buzzy vibrations, but the orgasms usually feel weak and unsatisfying.1 Rumbly vibrations on the other hand, travel further and deeper. So if you’re using a vibrator clitorally, a buzzy vibrator only stimulates the clitoral glans, or wherever you put it, whereas a rumbly vibrator will stimulate wherever you put it, as well as the deeper, inner clitoris. This translates to stronger, more satisfying orgasms.
Enter the We-Vibe Tango & Touch. The Tango is made of hard plastic and features a straight, “bullet,” lipstick-like design, with an angled tip, and the Touch is made of silky matte silicone, with a broader design that features a cup-like tip to cover the clit. The reason I’m reviewing them together is because although they have different designs, they feature the same motor.
And let’s talk about that motor–because it’s what makes these vibes so unique, and so amazing. It’s strong. Miraculously strong. Perhaps more importantly, it’s also super rumbly. Like, mini earthquakes rumbly. And strong, rumbly vibration=incredibly strong, intense orgasms. To whoever created that motor–you are a hero!
Since it’s smaller and made of hard plastic, the Tango is the stronger vibrator of the two. It’s so strong that I can use it over panties, and it’s also one of the only vibrators that can make me come without direct clitoral contact, its rumbly vibration awakening my inner clit. I am often greedy about my orgasms though, so I use it directly too, and I can come in record time. Like, Hitachi or Eroscillator fast…except it’s much smaller, and not a plug-in! The Tango’s angled tip is great for pinpoint stimulation, but you can also use its body for a little more surface area.
The Tango is so strong that one time while I was using it with Jake, I came almost the entire time we were having sex, and my vag got so tight from constant squeezing that Jake legit had a hard time staying inside of me. He had to thrust super hard to keep my vag from pushing him out. It’s also so fabulous that I’ve actually dreamed about masturbating with it. No one else was with me in my dream, nothing particularly interesting was happening…I was just using the Tango on my clit. It’s quite literally the stuff dreams are made of.
The Tango is also really versatile since it’s the same size as standard bullets, so you can use it to replace the generic bullets that come with a lot of vibrating dildos/butt plugs.
Since the Touch is broader and its vibrations have to travel through silicone, they’re dampened a little and not quite as strong as the Tango–but don’t get me wrong, they’re still strong. The Touch also offers more surface area, which I like, and it’s concave area is great for cupping my clit, surrounding it with vibration. During sex with a partner, I usually prefer using the Touch, because I don’t need vibration to be as strong during penetration, and it’s easier to hold. (And sometimes the Tango can actually be too stimulating/overwhelming for me during sex.)
Both the Tango and the Touch are powered by a single button and feature 4 steady vibration power levels as well as 4 vibration patterns. To change the vibration, you click the button, and it will cycle through the functions. If you turn off the vibe (by holding down the button for a couple of seconds) and then turn it back on, it starts on the setting you used last. I can come one the first power level using either toy…and then I can orgasm again if I keep going, moving on to the stronger levels. I don’t use it often because I usually prefer steady vibration, but I do enjoy the Wave pattern. I’m not a big fan of the other 3 though–they feel a little too robotic.
=oh goddess, yes!
=oh, fuck, yesssss!
=OMFG I AM ONE WITH THE UNIVERSE, YES!
=An enjoyable tease.
=Make it stop!
Not only are the Tango and Touch strong and rumbly, they’re also stealthy. A lot of vibrators claim to be whisper quiet–but in this case, they actually are. They’re I’m sleeping on a friend’s couch and want to orgasm really quickly before bed quiet. They’re come fast in the bathroom quiet. Hell, I bet they’re so quiet that you could use one in the bed next to a sleeping partner without waking them strong, though I haven’t tested that theory.
In addition to being strong, rumbly, and discreet, the Tango and Touch are also waterproof and rechargeable. They take 90 minutes to charge, and they last for up to 2 hours of use. When their batteries are running low, the power button blinks like a homing beacon, letting you know that you need to charge them ASAP. This can be somewhat annoying if they’re on your bed stand, but overall I appreciate this feature, because a Tango or Touch dying mid-use is excruciating.
So you’re probably thinking that there must be a downside to these vibes. They couldn’t be perfect, could they? They’re pretty damn close, but there are a few things. For one, the whole Tango vibrates, so your fingers do feel the vibration as well. This doesn’t happen as much with the Touch, though you still get a little bit of vibration in the handle part. I also wish the charge lasted longer. It seems that almost every day, they’re blinking, telling me to charge them again. And as I mentioned earlier, I don’t like most of the functions, but that’s not a big deal to me.
The last and worst problem, which applies to the Tango in particular, is that they can die easily. I’ve heard that We-Vibe updated their electrical boards since the first generation of Tangos to decrease the number of failed units, AKA sad, dead vibrators, which was a good move on We-Vibe’s part. My first version Tango died suddenly mid-wank one day, and to my dismay, it would never hold a charge after that. I’ve had my new Tango & Touch for 3 months now and haven’t had any problems, but I’ve heard some people still have. Still, they come with a 1-year manufacturer’s warranty, so if that happens within the first year, you can get it replaced quickly.
The current Tango and Touch are the second generation, and there are a few differences from the original design. I had the original Tango, but I never tried the original Touch. The most important difference is that the old Touch was also not as strong and made of a different type of silicone that attracted link and hair more easily. The Tango is pretty much the same, with a slightly longer design. They both feature an updated, less finicky charger. For a detailed description of all of the differences between the old and new versions, check out Dangerous Lilly’s reviews.
So, which should you get?
Both! Ok, but if you have to choose…
If all you care about is having the most powerful vibrations, get the Tango. If you’re willing to sacrifice a little bit of vibration strength for a vibe that’s more ergonomic, or if you prefer broader stimulation or soft toys, get the Touch. They’re both strong, quiet, waterproof, and rechargeable, so you really can’t go wrong with either though, unless you don’t like powerful, rumbly vibration.
So what’s next on my wishlist from We-Vibe? The Dusk! I included it in my 15 sex toys I want to try in 2015 list, because Epiphora says you can have hands free orgasms with the Dusk+Tango…OMFG, y’all!
*The Tango & Touch were sent by We-Vibe in exchange for my honest review–thanks We-Vibe! If you buy through my links, I will receive a small commission. If you want to support my blog, please clear your cache & cookies first to ensure I get credit–thanks!
Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, and I don’t have any medical training. I am someone with a vagina who uses lots of sex toys and used to have a problem with yeast infections, speaking from my own experience as well as things I’ve learned over the years from reading about sex toys and vaginal health and talking to others about it. The tips I’ve laid out are for prevention, not treatment, so go to the doctor if you need to!
There are what seems like about a million factors than can contribute to getting a vaginal infection. The vagina has a delicate pH balance, and anything that upsets that can cause an overgrowth of yeast or bad bacteria. You’re more likely to get yeast infections around menstruation, if you use hormonal birth control, if you wear tight clothing/non-cotton underwear, among other things. Add sex toys to the mix, and you can potentially open yourself to the possibility of infection. Don’t worry though–you can use sex toys safely if you take some precautions. Most of these tips are focused around the vagina, but #1 & 2 apply to butts/mouths as well.
Safe sex toy materials/natural lubes
1. Avoid using porous sex toys (especially in orifices.)
There are a lot of unsafe sex toys on the market that are incredibly porous, meaning they have tiny holes in their material that can harbor harmful bacteria and potentially spread infections and STIs. These sex toys will never be truly clean, even after what seems like a thorough washing. In addition to potentially harboring bacteria or mold, porous toys often leach out phthalates and other harmful chemicals over time, which can cause itching, burning, and other bad reactions that you don’t want to subject your genitals to.
Although it’s best to avoid these materials completely, it’s especially important for internal use toys. While they still can’t be sterilized and could present issues, using porous toys for external use, such as penis masturbators, cock rings, or clitoral vibes might not be as big a deal for some people. Still, proceed with caution. You can use condoms or other barriers to prevent spreading bacteria, but it’s unclear whether barriers will really protect you from phthalates and harmful chemicals. Porous toys should not be shared with partners who aren’t fluid bonded, as they can spread infections. Avoid jelly sex toys like the plague, and also stay away from PVC, rubber, TPR, TPE, elastomer, or basically anything that isn’t listed in the following paragraph whenever possible, especially for internal use.
Are you starting to fear for your safety now? Don’t worry, there are lots of safe, non-porous sex toy options: glass, stainless steel, 100% silicone, sealed wood, ceramic, and hard plastic. When these toy are cleaned thoroughly, they are truly clean. Just be sure to wash them properly (see #2.) If you want to learn more about toxic/unsafe toys, there’s tons of info on this page.
2. Wash Your Toys Properly
If you’re using a non-porous toy, then once you give it a good cleaning, it’s truly clean and safe to use again and potentially even share. There are a few different options for toy cleaning. You can wipe down/wash your toy with soap and warm water or use a 10% bleach/90%water solution. If you’re washing a toy with a lot of texture or a vibrator with buttons etc., use an old toothbrush to get in all of the crevices of the toy. If your toy doesn’t have an attached motor and is made of silicone, you can also boil it it or run it through your dishwasher cycle (no detergent.) You can potentially boil/dish-wash glass or metal too, but take care as both retain temperature and can also scratch or chip if not handled carefully.
Wash your toys before you use them, and make sure you rinse them thoroughly. You should also wash your toys after you use them when possible, and it’s a good idea to do it as soon as you can, so that lube and body fluids don’t get crusted to your toys.
3. Use the Right Lube
Even if you’re using safe, non-porous toy materials, you can still potentially get yeast infections if you’re using the wrong lube. A lot of drugstore, “mainstream” lubricants contain glycerin, which is irritating to a lot of people. Look for lubes that say glycerin free, and check the ingredients. There are also other ingredients in a lot of lubes than can be irritating, so if you’re sensitive, I recommend using a natural, hypoallergenic lube with few ingredients–my favorite brand is Sliquid.
4. Keep Butt Germs Away from Your Vagina
Anal play is awesome, but anuses have bacteria that can be harmful to the vulva/vagina and can cause vaginal or urinary tract infections. If you’re using a toy and want to switch from butt to vulva or vaginal stimulation, put a condom over it. Or, have a condom on the toy when you’re using it anally, and then take it off when you switch to vaginal. This goes for fingers/hands/tongues/pensises as well (use gloves, condoms, or dental damns, etc.)
5. Practice Good Vaginal Health
While using the wrong sex toys/lube can cause yeast infections, they may be caused by many other factors as well. There are a lot of other things you can do for good general vaginal health.Wearing cotton panties and loose clothing is a good idea, especially if you tend to have problems with yeast infections. I’ve also personally found probiotics to be helpful. Other things you can do for vaginal health: stay hydrated, eat healthy foods, make sure your/other people’s hands are clean before they go near your vagina, pee after sex, practice safer sex, and go in for check-ups and STI tests. Also, don’t douche or use feminine sprays or deodorants. Douching is not only unnecessary, it’s very harsh and can throw off the vagina’s natural bacterial balance and pH level. An external rinse is really all you need, and you can use a hypoallergenic, low pH soap externally if you want. In addition to avoiding lubricants and other products with glycerin, anything with sugar should not be introduced to the vagina–as Molly mentioned in her comment, lollipops shaped like cocks can be fun for photos etc. but should never be inserted, and this goes for other candy/syrups etc.
As I said before, I’m not a doctor or health professional. All of these tips are for prevention, not treatment, and this isn’t all encompassing. Did you know you that semen can actually through off your vaginal pH balance as well? So can certain medications and underlying health problems. If you already have an infection or reoccurring infections, go see to a doctor.
Since we’d never tried a prostate toy before, Jake and I were both intrigued when Mangasm contacted me about reviewing one of their products. Jake admitted that at first he was a little worried about what he was getting into and was expecting a large, curved toy, similar to some of my g-spot ones, so when the Mangasm arrived, he was surprised that the toy was actually pretty small. The box had instructions on the back, but the information wasn’t specific to the Voyager but instead more of a summary of how Mangasm prostate massagers work in general.
To find out more about how to use the toy, Jake looked on the Mangasm website, read all of the toy descriptions, and watched their demonstration videos. In most of the videos, the men pretty much just stick a Mangasm in their ass, jack off for a few minutes, and BOOM, ejaculation/intense orgasm. When he read the description of the Voyager, the website described the toy as “the largest and most aggressive model,” which seemed strange to both of us because it was no larger than Jake’s thumb. Still, we were anxious to give it a try since the website also claims the Voyager is for men looking for a “super intense male g spot orgasm.” We also checked out the Mangasm Edge, which is exactly the same toy but smaller, and the description claimed that it causes some men to orgasm without even touching their penises. Needless to say, we were excited to try it out.
The Voyager is straight or “bullet shaped” with a curved perineum tab for extra pressure on the prostate and a ring on the other side for easy removal. At the base of the toy is a cord that connects to the controller, where you can adjust the vibration gradually by sliding the button up or down. My immediate thoughts were that this toy may not hold up for long since pulling too hard on the cord or getting water inside it would probably ruin the toy. I was happy that it was made of smooth, ABS plastic, which is hygienic and non-porous.
The first few times we tried the Mangasm together, and it was easy to insert and use, but Jake said he didn’t feel anything out of the ordinary other than the vibration. We figured maybe we had the angle wrong or we just needed more practice since we’d never tried prostate toys before. He tried contracting and relaxing his sphincter muscles like the instructions said, but he still didn’t notice anything exceptional, and eventually he would get bored of it and want to just have sex instead.
Since we didn’t had any luck using it together, I told Jake his homework (tough huh?) was to masturbate with the Mangasm by himself a few times and report back. He tried it a few times, but each time had the same results; he said the vibration added a nice variation, but he still didn’t feel his prostate responding in the way the package and website described it should. I was about ready to give up on it and write a review since he’d already tried it about 6 times with no results.
Finally, I received a text from him saying, “It worked this time!” while I was out. As soon as I got home I flooded him with questions: “What did you do differently this time? What happened? What did it feel like? He explained that this time he sat down on the Mangasm, which put more pressure on his prostate, whereas the other times he was standing or lying down. Determined to make it work, he also leveraged it back and forth while he was contracting and relaxing his muscles while also lightly touching himself. He imagined how he usually stimulates my g-spot, and tried adjusting the Mangasm and playing around until he felt the right amount of pressure. After about 13-15 minutes, some cum dripped out in sync with his contractions, but he was still fully erect afterwards and felt he needed to cum a lot more. He reverted to masturbating in his normal, rougher way, and quickly reached a climax with his usual amount of cum.
I was intrigued when I heard this since I’ve never seen him ejaculate twice within such a short period before, and I asked him if I could watch. After putting on porn, stripping down, and lying on the floor in front of him, I told him to do what he did before, but this time I wouldn’t join him no matter what. I’m definitely a distraction to his usual routine (we’ve tried mutual masturbation but can never quite keep our hands off each other,) and I wanted to see the whole thing start to finish.
When he inserted the Mangasm, I could see the curved perineum massager resting where it’s designed to. I watched as he contracted and released his muscles, moved the toy up and down slightly (not in and out), and then touched himself. He kept this up, and after about 12 minutes some cum started trickling out as he contracted his muscles. It was odd watching it; it didn’t shoot out like in his usual ejaculation. Afterwards he stayed hard for a few minutes and kept masturbating harder with his hand until he came again, this time more intensely.
Afterwards, we talked more about what happened both times and read more about other’s experiences and realized that Jake had in fact had a prostate orgasm or “milked the prostate.” He did release seminal fluid without his typical hard stroking, and it did lead up to a normal orgasm. Still, it wasn’t the “hands-free orgasm” suggested, and something seems to be missing. He said the prostate orgasms didn’t feel as good as his usual ones, and he didn’t feel that they intensified his subsequent normal orgasms either. We’ve read a lot of other prostate toy reviews, and he didn’t get the same explosive results that other men describe. The main difference either of us noticed was that he produced ejaculate twice. I’ve also read reviews that say they use prostate toys during sex and that it’s amazing, but since the Voyager is straight and doesn’t have a bulbous shape at all, it wouldn’t stay in during sex when we tried it.
Overall, the Voyager did help Jake achieve prostate milking, but it didn’t quite live up to Jake’s expectations, especially in comparison to the Mangasm descriptions. He enjoyed the vibration but said the toy needed to be curved more, or be a little girthier, or a little longer, or have stronger vibrations…or maybe some combination of these aspects for it to stimulate his prostate better. While it was fun to use, it definitely didn’t cause him to have any life changing orgasms. When I asked him what his ultimate opinion on the toy was, he said basically it seemed difficult to use, and he couldn’t see any advantage over a finger other than the vibration. If you want to try prostate exploration and milking, you could give the Voyager a shot, but don’t expect the immediate, explosive results promised or you’ll probably be disappointed, especially after dropping $72 on it.
Cleaning & Maintenance
Since the Voyager is made of non-porous ABS plastic, you can wash it with antibacterial soap and warm water and use either water based or silicone lubricant with it. The controller runs on 2 AA batteries, and as with any toy it will have a longer lifespan if you remove them in between uses. As I mentioned in the beginning of the review, the cord seems pretty delicate, so take care when washing and using it.
When I started packing, I knew I couldn’t bring many toys because I was very limited with space and weight and also needed to be discreet since I was staying with my family.
I ultimately decided to bring the Lelo Mia since it’s petite and resembles a lipstick more than a sex toy. Mia’s USB charging was also a big factor because I didn’t want to have to deal with bringing enough batteries or using a converter to charge my toy in another country. At first I considered packing a petite g-spot dildo as well, like the Lelo Ella, but I ended up deciding against it. As much as I love my g-spot and squirting, I knew that I wouldn’t have much privacy and would probably be too busy to have long masturbation sessions.
So that’s how I ended up in Spain for a month with only one sex toy, the Lelo Mia. As a habitual masturbator and Hitachi addict, it seems weird even to me that I didn’t masturbate very much on the trip. But since I was waking up at 7am every morning, trekking all over Barcelona and the surrounding area, taking two to four hours of Spanish class every day, sightseeing, socializing, and then taking care of my 9 year old sister for the last 2 weeks by myself, I really didn’t have the time, energy, or privacy to play as much as usual. When I did masturbate, it was usually in a few minutes of seclusion or free time, and it was more for relaxation and stress relief than anything.
Of course I already knew the Lelo Mia would be able to get me off when I packed it (after all, what could be worse than bringing only one toy that I wasn’t sure about?) Although nothing compares to my favorite vibe, Mia is actually quite strong for such a small toy, and it can bring me to orgasm within minutes. The vibration is buzzier than I usually like, but it’s still strong enough to work for me. Since I bought my Lelo Mia this January, it’s the new improved version (the previous Mia had weaker, buzzier, and less concentrated vibration.)
The Lelo Mia has three modes of pulsing vibration, but I don’t use them; I usually start at about medium strength and quickly increase to full power of steady vibration. It’s also very quiet, and one of my friends has even said that she has used it in public places (a bathroom stall etc.) without raising suspicion. According to the user manual, the Mia takes an hour to charge (although I’ve noticed it seems to take longer) and lasts for up to an hour and a half of play. Believe it or not, I didn’t charge the Mia the whole month I was in Spain, and it was fine, although it did die shortly after.
Mia is made of ASB plastic with silicone control buttons. To clean Mia, wash it with antibacterial soap and warm water, being careful not to get any water into the USB socket (Mia is NOT waterproof.) Since the buttons are made of silicone, you should only use a water based lubricant with Mia. Like all Lelo toys, the Mia comes with a one year warranty, 10 year quality guarantee, user manual, and satin storage case. My Mia is deep rose, but it also comes in black or petal (light) pink. Mia is also lockable for travel, meaning it won’t go off unintentionally in your luggage.
Overall, the Lelo Mia was a perfect clitoral vibe for my month long trip to Spain, and I definitely recommend it as a travel toy or a beginner’s clitoral vibe. It’s small, discreet, quiet, USB rechargeable, and decently strong. Unfortunately, I almost never use it when I’m not travelling. Compared to other battery powered toys or my Hitachi, Mia just can’t hang. The Mia definitely worked perfectly for my trip though, and I’m glad I didn’t bring any other larger toys since I had to move from one apartment in an extreme rush, and a couple of my relatives helped me pack all of my stuff. Mia was safely tucked away in my toiletries bag, but even if it was out it wouldn’t have been obvious. The Hitachi on the other hand…that would have taken some explaining.
This past Sunday, I took some photos of Jake and myself for Sinful Sunday while he was working on our deck. Since I had my camera out already, I wanted to get some photos for Toy With Me Tuesday as well, so I added a toy to the mix of his tools.